But so many appear without happiness. Why is this? Is happiness truly elusive or can we simply not understand how to take hold of it? It really is my contention that contentment is yours for the taking. When the choose to be… and when they understand how to get it, which is, anyone can be happy.
So what will it take to deliver us to a state of happiness? Here are a few thoughts to get you on your way:
Usually do not try to control circumstances.
One of the primary “contentment busters” I see is in the frustration people encounter (and wallow in) because circumstances go awry. It is because their thoughts-set, whether they know it or not, is that they should be in some way able to control circumstances. But let’s have this straight: You can’t! So, the very first thing you can do to provide yourself happiness is to stop trying to control! Alternatively, getting responsibility for circumstances that are outside of your control! Comprehend that you can only control your self.
There is only one thing you are able to control in this world and that is your self. You can’t control the
weather, other drivers, your kids or spouse, or anything at all for that matter outside of your own values, thoughts, behaviour and measures. Focus all of your attention on developing yourself and doing what is correct – controlling yourself whilst letting what is going to happen, happen – and you will definitely find happiness opening up inside you.
Determine what it is that you want out of life and then stay with it relentlessly.
This is two parts: First, know what you would like. Get real clear on your own. Take a personal retreat to be alone if you have to, but arrived at grips with what you want your life to look like.
Secondly, invest yourself to that passion and do not be sidetracked. If we go after them they are going to actually smash our happiness because they will take us far from what will truly make us happy, it really is interesting to me how many choices we have – good options – that.
Live for a legacy. We cannot be self-soaked up and stay just for ourselves.
Indeed, we only manage ourselves, but we can stay for the betterment of others. Enjoy life in such a way that others are handled and you will end up feeling happiness in ways that you might never imagine. For example, I get some of the most touching emails from people I have never met (and probably never ever will) who tell me the way i have helped them. There is very little else which brings me this kind of happiness!
Compromise your finances. Whatever your financial goals are, get them! Having poor finances is one of the major causes of unhappiness. Now, some individuals are completely content on $30,000 annually. Others require $200,000 annually. That is okay. We all have various desires, requirements, and goals. But the secret is to know what you want your financial life to look like and then do what it takes to get there. If not completely, among the significant things to do would be to eliminate as much debt as possible!
Surround your self with great friends. Close friend are such a blessing! We have some of the most smart, capable and successful and caring buddies a person could have. I have 3 or 4 people in my life that I completely trust and admire. When friendships are clicking, there exists almost absolutely nothing that provides much more happiness. Take time to develop your friendships. Spend more time with them, do fun things with them etc. Even as life gets increasingly more hectic, make time with your friends a priority.
Build your primary enjoy relationship. I spoke in a groom’s supper recently and one of the points I created was that marriage will reveal both paradise and heck! Marriage, when it is heading well will be sending you out the doorway each morning on cloud 9. When it isn’t going well, it impacts every area in your life negatively. Do whatever you can – work hard – at developing your primary love connection. The rewards of happiness you enjoy will be great!
Happiness is yours for your taking – and hope you will take the time to develop your daily life in such a way as to be able to experience all of the happiness you can handle!